Emotional Confusion Is Required - Relationship advices

Setting aside for a minute, that if confronted with love you will have a physical wig out and that it is easy and dangerous to confuse about love and sex. In addition love requires emotional confusion. 

An implication of love is that things are going to change. You are going to be, we not I and us not me. It is ours not mine. In many cases the whole context of life changes. Change isn't easy. The psychologist will tell you that if you are going to change you have to be emotionally disturbed enough about current conditions that you psychologically embrace the change in order to adopt it. Confusion is a requirement for something new to emerge. It sets the stage for decisions and reorganization. If you are not emotionally confused then there is not any reason to change. 

There is no way around. The trick of course is to see the forest for the trees. Already in the middle of an emotional hot soup as per Rule 1 and Rule 2 the task is to be calm. Recognize these things: 
  • Emotion comes in waves
  • If you don't do anything the waves of emotion will break over you
  • After the break there is a calm things flatten out
  • The flat space is best for decisions
  • It takes three or more flat spaces to make a good decision.
Don't be in a hurry. Emotional confusion is required to stimulate the decisions and reorganization required to open space for love. Welcome it as you would aspirin for a headache. Swallow it, relax and give it time to work.

There are a number of other things a novice at love should know about how love works. They can be stated as a set of rules or helpful guidelines for those who dare to accept the challenge of learning about love. Behind each rule exists several thousand years of human experience with love captured in music, art, literature and sometimes modeled in noble men and women. Because love is the most profound and desirable of human experiences it would serve each of us to search out the rules and then study the experience and wisdom behind them. It is a fundamental of love that we can only be better for having dared to explore and understand the power of love. 

Warren Cooley is a professional educator, and the writer/creator and of [http://www.loveaha.com] This unique social networking community explores the question: “what is love?” Registered members are people interested in building healthy emotional relationships based on a deeper understanding of love. Visit the LoveAha community and register free or try the “What Is Love” quiz. Get a FREE personalize email report revealing what you believe about love. [http://www.loveaha.com/quiz/] 
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