3 Things You Absolutely Must Not Say To Your Lover - Relationship advices

3 things you absolutely must not say if you really want to change the mind of your lover. 

(1) If you want to change the mind of your spouse or lover regarding anything, you must not say "But I love you..." I can tell you, telling them that and emphasizing how much you love them is not going to make them change their mind. 

When you say "But I love you...", your are actually telling your partner that you want him/her to do something your way! Not his/her way. 

Remember that "Humans tend to love themselves more than anything else!". When you say "I love you...", you are actually loving yourself more. You want your partner to do things which will satisfy your ego, thus you want your partner to do things your way. 

And your partner knows it! He/She is not going to change his/her mind just because you tell them "I love you..." 

(2) If you want your partner to do certain things your way, you must not say to your partner "But I have done these and these for you..." 

Avoid bringing up the past about what you have done for him or her. The past is already gone. Emphasizing how much you have done for your partner will only tell him/her that he/she has to do things your way because that is the price they have to pay for all that you have helped them done in the past. 

The more you say this, the more your partner will want to drift away from you or leave you. He or she will be too scared to be with you as they know their movement is restricted by how much they can repay you. 

So, at all costs, avoid giving them the feeling that they have to pay a price just to be with you! No one in this world likes to be controlled or restricted by another person! 

(3) Avoid saying things like "But it's your responsibility...." 

Your partner will not like to be tied down by responsibility or duties. When it comes to relationship, there are no rules. Love is unconditional. By emphasizing too much on responsibility, you are going to turn your partner off. 

He or she will not want to be with somebody who wants to impose rules and regulations on them. So, it is your job and responsibility to see that you give your partner no excuse to leave you for another person. So, what exactly must you say if you want to change the mind of your partner to make them do things your way, or see things your way? 

Firstly, emphasize the strong points if they see things your way. Let them know, what are the benefits and advantages of doing and seeing things your way. Give them clear explanations. 

Secondly, remember your partner is not concerned about what others want. He or she is not concerned about what you want. He/she is more concerned about what he/she wants and what he/she can receive. Many times, they are not against your ideas, or whatever it is you want, but they are actually against your disregarding their freedom of choice. 

So, give them what they want. Give them freedom of choice. Let them know they have the freedom to decide what they want to believe in or what they do not want to believe in. And let them know they have the freedom to choose what they want to do, and what they do want to do. 

The magical words you can tell them are "Yes! I understand what you are saying. Why not you try it / do it...". 

"Yes" is the magical word which connects you and your partner instantly. 

"I understand..." shows you are with your partner, you are listening them out, and you respect their decision. 

"Why not you try it / do it ..." tells them you support their decision or choice, even though you are not in favor of it. 

If you have a rival, always remember, the person who can give your partner more freedom of choice will most likely be the one your partner wants to be with most. 

If you keep all the above principles in mind, you are likely to have more success in changing your partner's mind and make them do things your way. 

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