Keeping Love Alive and Well With the Law of Attraction

I have a friend who wants to know why he no longer feels the same love for his wife he did for the first 17 years of their marriage. Now this is not about a wife who has cheated, been neglectful, or done anything wrong. It is not about an abusive situation or one where she is no longer interested in the marriage but it is, at this point a long-distance relationship. That being said, let's go back to the basics here. We know that whatever you focus attention on in your life grows stronger. In a situation like this, he is focused on the lack of love instead of the love itself. In so doing he is inadvertently manifesting more of the same.

Focusing on other women (or men) and trying to resist them is focusing energy on other people. Fantasizing about other people focuses attention on them and results in unhealthy and counterproductive energy that works against your goal. It is therefore a bad idea to go around talking about all the negative problems in your relationship and the wonderful qualities you see in other attractive people. Don't dwell on your dilemma. Maintain your focus on the relationship you've committed yourself to. Fantasize about your partner. Focus on why you fell in love in the first place. Remember when you fell in love... what was it that made you think of nothing else than being with your lover?

A good way to focus on you partner is to make a list each day of 30 or more things you love about your spouse; write them down and read them over. Concentrate all your attention on those things. Act as if you are hopelessly in love with them the way you were when you first met. Additionally, send flowers, write love notes, and send text messages; whatever you did back when you first fell in love. Call to mind the times when the mere mention of their name was like a sigh during a busy moment and let it be again. Remember the times when the first thing you wanted to do when something good happened was to tell your partner... and you actually did. Do that again!

Can you imagine the intensity of your relationship if you both worked as hard to maintain it as you did when you initially developed it in the first place? Remember the hours you once spent getting to know each other? When was the last time you asked your partner to tell you something about them you didn't already know? When was the last time you revealed something new to your partner? When was the last time you looked at your partner as if they were someone you might not necessarily know everything about? When was the last time you looked at that person as if you didn't see them every day? If you focus on your partner as a gift, as someone you cherish and are blessed with, you will start to see just how blessed you really are.

If you are separated for any length of time, as many of us are these days, make the extra effort to let your partner know you're thinking of them. Send flowers or candy and write letters often, even if you can't send them. When they get home, they will have a journal to read filling them in on what happened while they were gone. Wouldn't it be nice when you get back together to have a bunch of love letters to read about how much you were missed and thought of as well as what your partner did while you were apart?

Ideas such as these will help maintain your focus and attention on your relationship, right where it needs to be. That focused energy strengthens it even through difficult times, and helps to remove distracters and negative influences that only serve to derail the passion you both once knew and can have once again. Just remember... love is a gift and maintaining it is a choice, so make the decision!! It can all begin right now... good luck!

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